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Am i being bad?

Posted anonymously on Jan 21, 2015 05:10 PM 10 Responses

me and my boyfriend took a break and it was literally for a week but I found out he had sex with this girl, he didn't tell me i just worked it out then he admitted it. Hes getting angry at me for being upset about it. Am i being a bad girlfriend for getting upset? I havent shouted at him for it because he was technically single. but is it wrong of me to get upset? I dont know what he expected me to be like...

Last comment on Jan 21, 2015 03:32 PM

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Why does he do this to me?

Posted anonymously on Jan 18, 2015 01:22 PM 4 Responses

Basically ive been with my boyfriend a week short of a year and suddenly he just ignores me all the time. Hes never been the type of person to go out and see his mates but suddenly he has been going out every night and then im getting very short replies but as soon as i see him he seems normal as hell. when i saw him this just gone weekend he asked me to have space for a while but he promises to get back with me. I agreed thinking space could be a good thing cause itll make him realise what he has with me. my boyfriend suffers from autism and he doesnt always understand emotions. His best girl-mate recently split from her boyfriend and theyve been seeing each other a lot cause hes been supporting her and she spent the night at his and he says they cuddled (he does have a tiny bed) but he doesnt understand the mixed messages this can send to this girl and hes seeing her a lot and i trust him to the earth. it just panics me when hes barely speaking to me, asking for space and seeing a girl he previously had a crush on. Am i being pathetic? I just cant loose him. If you decide to take space from a relationship does that mean you need to stay faithful? I said it does but he disagreed which worries me that hes asking for space to go off with this girl then come back when hes done. Shes exactly his type because shes very 'emo' and im not? I just dont know what to do

Last comment on Jan 19, 2015 12:55 PM

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Boyfriend has little life experience

Posted anonymously on Jan 17, 2015 02:46 PM 33 Responses

I've been with my boyfriend for a while. He is in his 30s and I was his "first" everything, first girlfriend, first sexual experience, etc. That was fine with me. However, he had a bad upbringing and as a result, he has very little life experience and this is concerning to me and I haven't really realized this until later in the relationship. He has a job and apartment but that's about it. He doesn't drive, can't swim, has never traveled, didn't go to college, doesn't eat different things, doesn't listen to much music, never gone to a concert, doesn't watch TV or movies, doesn't drink or go out to sit-down restaurants, etc. I try to get him to try new things with me and many times, I get pushback which is frustrating to me. Sometimes he does try new things but sometimes not. I think he's scared and this is a life long issue for him. I feel like I am being petty because he loves me dearly and is loyal and we do mesh in a lot of ways. However, I have many hobbies and interests, I'm well traveled, and I worry that the future will be me pulling him into new experiences all the time. Please tell me what you think.

Last comment on Jan 23, 2015 08:06 AM

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Does this girl I ignore like me?

Posted anonymously on Jan 17, 2015 01:08 AM 3 Responses

I'm in high school. There's a girl in one of my classes that I ignore for the most part. She has tried throughout the year to squeeze my nipples while walking by. I don't think she is doing it to be funny because I try to not react to it. I just am not sure if this could mean she likes me.

Last comment on Jan 19, 2015 11:02 AM

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she fell for me and i pushed her away

Posted anonymously on Jan 15, 2015 11:53 PM 2 Responses

A girl I met, we had an intense first couple of meetings. In bed she would exclaim "you're amazing" with a cute voice and have a sparkle in her eye. She was great. And sweet with words. The more I got to know her the more I found out about her. She has a lot of close guy friends , which is cool, she grew up with them. But she also gets obliterated drunk with them too and confesses she 'blacks outs '. This I couldn't deal with, this relationship was fresh and I didn't build up any form of trust. So I ended up just ending it with her. She was devasted. I'm not hyping myself up here. That's just how it went. Now, I'm stuck with regret of ending it, everything was great except me getting concerned about her being drunk around guys. I don't know why but I'm sad and depressed about it. She hasn't tried contacting me and vice versa. I guess I should just let this be a short and sweet chaptor of my life. But I can't get her out of my mind ....and it bothers me that I ended it . Do I leave it or do I contact her. ...I think she's moved on

Last comment on Jan 16, 2015 08:03 AM

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Husband called me a "worthless bitch."

Posted anonymously on Jan 15, 2015 09:11 AM 9 Responses

My husband and I got into a huge fight. He ended up calling me a "worthless bitch." In our relationship, that's about as low of a blow as you can get. That's what he always called his ex wife, but she is in fact worthless. He called me this once before when we first started dating, and I told him then if he ever uttered that word to me again, in a fit of rage or not, I would leave. And he has never called me that up until now. He's apologized a million times and swears he didn't mean it and just said it out of anger. But I just can't get past it. It really hurt me. How can I get over this?

Last comment on Jan 16, 2015 10:19 AM

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Etiquette on inviting family to your wedding

Posted by Matt Sanchelli on Jan 13, 2015 06:18 PM 8 Responses

My fiance and I are going over yet another revision to the guest list for our upcoming wedding this October. Our reception venue can hold no more than 200 (that's including wedding party). Ideally, we'd like to keep the list at roughly 175. The largest debate we often hear from others when it comes to inviting others to a wedding is making sure to invite those you WANT there, and those you feel OBLIGATED to invite. The thing is we would prefer to simply invite only those we WANT there, so we're trying to keep the list to those who have played significant parts in our lives and are important to us. Now having said that it's going to make my actual question sound somewhat "dickish" and possibly make me out to be an ass. Here is my hopefully basic and simple (to ask) question for everyone here. I have 4 cousins, each married and with children, whom I'm not really close with, haven't seen in over 10 years, and most interactions have been likes/comments on Facebook posts averaging maybe 1-2 per year. While I would obviously like to have family at my wedding, it isn't precisely priority they be there. Would I be causing waves in my family (we're Italian...just FYI) by not inviting them? Does the fact I still plan on inviting my Aunt and Uncle, their parents, and not them?

Last comment on Jan 15, 2015 10:30 AM

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Desperate need of advice

Posted anonymously on Jan 12, 2015 12:04 AM 4 Responses

So I've had this thing with a guy for 2 years now and We would be dating but he lives 40 minutes from me and we got this huge argument about where we stand and what we're doing and I asked him if he likes someone else and he said "Kinda:/ like it's nothing like ours is, but I just see her a lot more, but sometimes that's the difference :( " I dont know what to do, I want to let this fling go but I can't convince myself to. Please help

Last comment on Jan 15, 2015 08:12 AM

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Guy Advice

Posted anonymously on Jan 09, 2015 05:39 PM 3 Responses

Last year I went out with a guy a three times. Had fun, kissed but absolutely nothing more. Then he kind of faded away. He's pretty clueless with women and without getting into details because they're boring, this isn't just my opinion, it's a know fact. It's been about 6 months, and I randomly get a text about cookies I dropped off at work. I was surprised but replied nicely. And that was it. Today, about 2-3 weeks later, he texts me about something I put on Facebook. This time we exchanged a few messages. I think he's trying to reconnect, but this is the first time a guy has done this (booty calls exempted). I'm not holding my breath and I'm not expecting anything, but I would like to encourage him if he really is interested in reconnecting without scarring him off. Thoughts?

Last comment on Jan 15, 2015 08:17 AM

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When live is incredibly busy, but incredibly boring ...

Posted anonymously on Dec 30, 2014 07:51 AM 8 Responses

Just wondering ... do any of you ever feel like you are so busy you can't see straight, and yet most of your lives are spent on everything for everyone else ... you find yourself not even remembering WHAT in life ever got you excited at all? I've been stuck here for years. I fill my time with eating (what new taste or new wine can I discover next?). I used to fill my time with dating and dinners or brunches; but my income has gone down since I took a government job, AND I have a toddler now ... so time and spending money have gone out the window. I'm a single mom who is lucky to have a flexible schedule, a roof over my head and halfway decent money, but I don't do ANYTHING with my life beyond being her mom (and I LOVE that J.O.B. - don't get my wrong). I pay bills, eat and eat some more. I work. I love to sleep a lot when she is down for her naps. It just doesn't seem like life has a purpose though. But ... I tell myself that I am in my 40s (feeling really old already), and that this is probably to be expected. I am depressed and deal with anxiety a lot. I just feel so unfulfilled in my ho-hum relationship. I have much of what I need (at least as far as society says so). I fancy myself a writer, but I mostly just string together good sounding sentences for the government. So, I ask you ... is there MORE to life than just existing and staying afloat? Have any of you been there and come through that and found a better way to live your lives? I used to find that spark in life through running (for 20 years!). But I injured myself. I also retired from the military. I miss my life as it was. I used to do more, go more places, and just BE MORE. Now I feel like I'm no one doing nothing that anyone will ever remember once I'm done and gone. ANY ADVICE would be so welcomed. I don't mean to sound like a pity party. I just don't know how to escape my boredom and dissatisfaction with life. Antidepressants just aren't the answer either. I telework, so some weeks I don't even leave the house but once or twice. And that may seem great to some, but it gets old. I don't feel like doing anything. So lethargic and dealing with a thyroid problem -- but that's pretty well under control. I feel like I want to discover a way to reinvent my life before it's too late.

Last comment on Jan 02, 2015 11:40 AM